So, this past weekend was Labor Day… and as any of you who celebrate it know– it’s meant for anything BUT labor.
I went “upnorth” as us Michiganders say, to Gaylord with my lovely Greg and his family.
Inevitably… like any time I take a slight haitus from the everyday hustle and bustle of life, I found a strengthening in my belief of the power of relaxation and disconnection from stress/ routine.
Often times I find myself stressing for no reason.
Okay head, what’s going on?
You’ve got homework…school…work…a bit of a family crisis
Hum of panic begins brewing.
Hey hey hey! But it’s nothing we can’t tackle like we have a million times before right?
And still… no answer, just a lingering sense of discomfort that threatens to grow hourly.
My mind doesn’t answer, because I’m still working full speed. I believe full well in the saying “Dreams don’t work unless you do”, so I’m always throttling full speed ahead– completing classwork, building a portfolio, working, blogging, and balancing my world of 300 some minions… all the while trying to make room for relationships and “normal” life.
But here’s the kicker: In order to experience life and hold substance behind our voice, we must slow down and live in the moment. It is only then that we are truly open to everything around us.
Watching Fred (Greg’s pup)… it hit me. The scene was gorgeous. Not because he’s the beautifully handsome little man he is, but because he wasn’t concerning himself with anything other than what was happening right here, right now.
I practiced Fred’s way of life completely for those two days… and what happened was breathtaking.
Soubi, a character of mine I have known for 11 years now stayed with me for the entire time. I learned the truth behind his life before me… wiped away false tales I had thought I heard in the past… found his mother and father who I didn’t believe were alive… and truly… really connected.
Because of this past weekend I have un-erasable and irreplaceable memories and experiences with him that have grown a better foundation to our friendship and ability to communicate.
That ability… to slow down and LISTEN… is the best tool I can possibly offer you to connecting with your characters and writing. It is priceless and will shape not only the way you write, but the way you live.
So instead of scripting out dialogue and scratching your head over where to go next or how so-and-so would react… listen to so-and-so! Let them tell you. Build a relationship with that person and part of yourself and open your own door to the world inside your mind.
That’s all folks! Join me next time!